Live The Life God Intended – Focus Part 2

Welcome back for Part 2 of Living the Life God Intended–FOCUS. We pray that you had a great week and was able to live your life the way God intended. There will be new posts Monday – Friday. Now, let’s dig in!

Live The Life God Intended – Focus Part 2
Passage – Colossians 3:1-4:6
Please click the following link to read the whole passage online: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Col%203:1-Col%204:6

8 – Focus on Forgiveness. (3:13)
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.”

9 – Focus on Love. (3:14)
“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

10 – Focus your Attention on living at Peace with everyone. (3:15)
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.”

11 – Focus on The Word of God. (3:16)
“Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.”

12 – Focus on doing things for God in His Son Jesus Name. (3:17)
“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

13 – Focus on Family Relationships. (3:18-21)
“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”

14 – Focus on your Earthly job as if you are working for God. (3:23-24)
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

15 – Focus on Prayer. (4:2)
“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.”

16 – Focus on winning others to Jesus. (4:3-5)
“And pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in chains. Pray that I may proclaim it clearly, as I should. Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.”

17 – Focus on being prepared. (4:6)
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”

Keep warm this weekend! I heard on the news that ALL 50 states had wind chills of below freezing today. Start your weekend off by reading your Bible. It’ll warm up your soul.

~Dr. G
John 14:6 – Jesus Is The Way, Truth, & Life

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What’s Your Top Ten?

A Question To Ponder…
Recently a childhood friend of mine asked me to make a list of ten ways that I would want others to treat me. So here is my list. Top 10 ways: Lovingly, Respectfully, Seriously, Compassionately, Mercifully, Forgivingly, Gently, Kindly, Encouragingly, and Gracefully. After compiling my list of the top ten I was feeling pretty good about myself. Until he said something to me that I did not expect. He said with a firm voice; now ask yourself one Question. “Is that how I treat all people?” Wow I was taken back by this question. It caught me off guard. I wasn’t sure if I could answer yes to all ten or even to just a few of them. Because he wasn’t asking how I treat people who I love, but for the treatment of all people. The longer I pondered on this simple question, the more I realized that the first question was not nearly as important as the second one. My answer to all ten toward all people was; No, not always. At this point in my conversation with my friend I prayed these words.”God forgive me of this sin and help me to treat others how I want to be treated even when they don’t treat me the way I desire. Thank You Father for this insight and revelation In Jesus Name I Pray Amen.” The Bible tells us in Luke 6:31 (NIV) “31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.” So I’m asking each one of you to take time and write your own top ten ways that you want to be treated. Then ask yourself, is this how I treat all people? A Question that all of us need to honestly answer before God. How do you treat what God has created?

From Your Pastor’s Heart,
~G

S.M.I.L.E

Since my hubby has been talking about stress relief this week. I thought I would lighten the mood a little. Around Mother’s Day, he asked me, “If you could tell other moms anything, what would it be?” (We have two children. They are 5 and 6) So, I am going to tweak what I wrote to fit everyone. Thank you for taking time to read our blog! I am so encouraged by the positive feedback. May God bless you and yours with wonderful weekend!

Proverbs 15:30:”A cheerful look brings joy to the heart; good news makes for good health.”

Just remember to SMILE:

S-Seek God’s guidance in all you do. Life is full of decisions, and if we want to make the right choices—those that glorify God, benefit us and our family—we need the Lord’s guidance. Psalm 32:8: The Lord says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you.”

M-Make every moment count. Our children grow up so fast and we are not promised tomorrow. The world continues to change (and not for the better). We need to make sure we, ourselves, are making each moment count. Tell someone about Jesus. Live in a way that others see God in you! Matthew 25:13: “So you, too, must keep watch! For you do not know the day or hour of my return.”

I-Instill God’s word into your life and your family’s lives. The Bible must be at the center of all we do as moms/dads, wives/husbands, sisters/brothers, coworkers, friends, and children of God if we intend to lead our children and this world to the Lord. Psalm 119:105: “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.”

L-Learn to listen more. Listen to God and He will guide you. Listen to your children and build a loving relationship. Listen to your spouse and build a more intimate bond. Listen to your parents, they have been there and done that and have wisdom to guide you through those times. Listen to you boss–who knows you might get a raise or at least their respect. James 1:19: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry”

E-Encourage your children, your spouse, your friends, your parents, and others. We all stumble and make mistakes. Just pick yourself up and keep working for the Lord. Are you doing a good work in His eyes?!! Hebrews 3:13: “But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.”

There are so many times in life, when it is just hard to smile. Trust me, I know. I’ve been battling illness after illness for over 14 months. But, the devil can not take my joy away. My hope comes from the Lord. Psalm 121:2 — “My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.”

He is the great physician and He will heal me in His time and for His Glory! Psalm 41:3 reminds us, “The LORD sustains them on their sickbed and restores them from their bed of illness.” Isn’t that so exciting and comforting to know. But, as I am waiting, I will continue to SMILE. I have so very much to smile about. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Focus on the bigger picture–the Kingdom of God!

Be Blessed and Be a Blessing to Others,
~M

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10

Stress Relief Part 4

When life becomes stressful, the Lord invites us to practice:

supplication,

stillness,

and finally…

III. SACRIFICE:
Psalm 4:5 (NIV)
5 Offer right sacrifices
and trust in the LORD.

Putting our trust in the Lord and behaving righteously while under distress,is the kind of sacrifice that is pleasing to God.
“Trust in the Lord,” is an essential part of the Christian life.

I heard a story recently:

A pilot was having difficulty landing his small airplane because fog had hidden the runway. So the air traffic controller decided to bring the plane in by radar. As the pilot received instruction, he suddenly recalled a tall poll in his flight path. Stricken with panic, he feverishly appealed to the control tower. A blunt reply came back, “You obey instructions, we’ll take care of obstructions.”

It’s difficult to trust when we can’t see what’s ahead, isn’t it?

The Bible urges, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. (6) In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6). We do not always know where the Lord’s path will lead us when we first become Christians. We may end up missionaries in a far land. We may become preachers (or married to preachers). We may serve in hospitals or Christians schools. We do not need to know at the beginning where God’s work will take us. It is enough to trust God with tomorrow. We get the details bit by bit as we learn the Word more perfectly, and see the doors of opportunity that God opens. To often, we worry about tomorrow instead of trusting God to see us through.

A television program preceding the Winter Olympics one year featured blind skiers being trained for down hill skiing, impossible as it sounds. Paired with sighted skiers, the blind skiers were taught, on the flats, how to make right and left turns. When that was mastered, they were taken to the slalom slope, where there sighted partners skied beside them shouting, “Left!” and “Right!” As they obeyed the commands, they were able to negotiate the course and cross the finish line, depending solely on the sighted skier’s word. It was either complete trust or catastrophe.

What a vivid picture of the Christian life! God delights in the “sacrifices of righteousness, and trust in the Lord!” That means believing and behaving in light of God’s promises, precepts, and principles. If we live our lives in accordance with God’s Word and fully relying on God, then we will be truly pleasing to Him,
and will have the guaranteed hope of eternal life!

Now, I don’t know what could possibly be more stress-relieving than that!

We all experience stress from time to time. Maybe you deal with it by getting a massage. Maybe you practice breathing exercises
or some other stress-management technique.

But, I think that we would all do well to follow the Lord’s prescription for stress:

Supplication: Take your worries and woes to the Lord, leave them at His throne, and He will help you carry your burden.

Stillness: Wait for the Lord. Meditate daily upon His Word and His will.

Sacrifice: Trust and Obey the Lord, and He will be pleased with your life.

May God Bless You,
Pastor G

The Anger Rules in Relationships

In life, in marriage, and in all relationships, we must learn to control our anger and learn to forgive. Forgiveness is a key part of love. The LORD sent Jesus to die for our sins so we could be forgiven.

The world teaches you to be quick to anger and slow to forgive, but the LORD teaches us to be slow to anger and quick to forgive!

Here are the anger rules:
It is okay to be angry.
1. Do not hurt yourself.
2. Do not hurt others.
3. Do not hurt things.
Always talk about it.

*****Ephesians 4:31-32
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.*****

Proverbs 14:29
He who is slow to anger has great understanding, But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.

Proverbs 16:32
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.

James 1:19
This you know, my beloved brethren. But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back.

Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.

Proverbs 15:18
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger pacifies contention.

Colossians 3:13
bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

Romans 12:19
Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.

Ephesians 4:26
Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,

Proverbs 14:17
A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of evil devices is hated.

Matthew 6:14-15
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Matthew 18: 21-22
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ” Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times? ” Jesus answered, ” I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

It is okay to be upset or angry, but do not sin in your anger! Be quick to listen and quick to forgive. Be slow to anger! Remember to SMILE!

Be a Blessing to Others,
~M

Marriage 101

Hello, Readers!  I pray that you are learning and growing in Christ as you read our blogs.  We added a tab, so you can submit questions.  Please submit them.  We would love to hear from you and answer any questions you have.

Let’s talk about Marriage 101.

1)    God Created Marriage.

Genesis 2:18-24  “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’”  This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

So what is God’s original design for marriage?

God created Eve because He knew that it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone.  The way God uniquely created Eve from one of Adam’s ribs illustrates God’s design for marriage: that the husband and wife become one.  Achieving oneness in marriage requires couples to do two things:

  • To Leave.

Genesis 2:24a:  This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife

As verse 24 states, marriage begins when a “man leaves his father and mother.”  By specifying the parent-child relationship, it is                          implied that if it is necessary to leave your father and mother, then all lesser ties must be broken, changed, or left behind.  You will                    still love and honor your parents.  You will still have other friends.  But your best friend should be your spouse.  And no one or thing-              including hobbies, business, or even church activities- should get in the way of that relationship.

  •  To Cleave.

Genesis 2:24b:  and the two are united into one.

To cleave means “to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly.”  As the text says, “the two are united into one” when                      this happens.  In the original Hebrew, the word used for cleaving meant an aggressive action, implying that you are holding tightly                  to your relationship with your spouse.  The Greek translation of this same word means “to cement together, to stick like glue, or to                  be welded together so the two cannot be separated without serious damage to both.

2)    Husbands and Wives Have Distinct Roles in Marriage.

Ephesians 5:21-33:  “ And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   For wives, this means submit your husbands as to the Lord.   For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church.  As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.  For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.  He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.  In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.  No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.  As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.  So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

  • God’s Plan for the Husband:                  

              He is to be the head of his wife.

Ephesians 5:23a:   For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church.

He is to be the head of his wife as Christ is the head off the church.  True authority in the marriage relationship has been given by God to the husband.  From the beginning, God designated the man as the leader in the marriage relationship.  Like Christ, a husband should be firm and decisive but also humble and unselfish.  Before a husband can expect his wife to submit to him, he has to submit to Christ.

  •  He must love his wife as Christ loved the church.

Jesus said in Matthew 20:28:  “ For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom               for many.”

To love as Jesus loved means that a husband focuses primarily on his wife’s needs, not his own.

              Ephesians 5:25:  For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her

The wife’s submission hinges upon the husband’s fulfillment of this role.  Just as the church loves Jesus because of His incredible display of love for it, so the wife will love and submit to her husband as she sees his demonstration of love toward her.  One heart burning with love sets another on fire.

  •  He must encourage his wife’s spiritual growth.

Ephesians 5:26:  to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.

One of the husband’s first priorities is to make sure his wife has a good relationship with God.  He is to encourage his wife’s spiritual growth, recognizing that it affects her personal happiness as a woman, wife, and mother.

  • He must love his wife as he loves himself.

Ephesians 5:31:  As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into              one.”

A husband must recognize that he and his wife are actually “One.”   Therefore, he must do for his wife what he would do for himself.  He should give her needs as much attention as he would his own.

Ephesians 5:28-29:   In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.  No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church

2.) God’s Plan for the wife.

  •  She must submit to her husband’s leadership.

Ephesians 5:21, 24:  And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  24 As the church submits to Christ, so you                     wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

She must submit to her husband’s leadership Just as a wife submits to God, seeking his will above her own, so she must submit to her husband and his decisions.

These guidelines for the husband and the wife become much easier to follow if they respect the first code of conduct listed: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”  The word used for submit is a term that means to arrange or rank under.  “In other words, we need to put the needs of our spouse before our own-in the fear of God.  As we do that, our marriages will flourish as God intended, and you will be a living illustration of Christ’s love for the church to an unbelieving world.  For marriage is not so much finding the right person as it is being the right person.

3)    The Boundaries of Marriage Are To Be Honored and Enjoyed.

Proverbs 5:15-21:  Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife.  Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone?   You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers.  Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.   She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.   Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman, or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman? For the Lord sees clearly what a man does, examining every path he takes.

Proverbs 5:15-21 (NLT)

4)    Remain Faithful to your Spouse.

Hebrews 13:4:  Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. 

5)    Divorce is not Part of God’s Plan.

Mark 10:2-12:  Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife?” Jesus answered them with a question: “What did Moses say in the law about divorce?”  “Well, he permitted it,” they replied. “He said a man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away.”  But Jesus responded, “He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts. But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation. ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife,  and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.”

God allowed divorce as a concession to people’s sinfulness. Divorce was not approved, but it was instituted to protect the injured party in a bad situation. Unfortunately, the Pharisees used Deuteronomy 24:1 as a proof text for divorce. Jesus explained that this was not God’s intent; instead, God wants married people to consider their marriage permanent. Don’t enter marriage with the option of getting out. Your marriage is more likely to be happy if from the outset you are committed to permanence. Don’t be hardhearted like these Pharisees, but be hardheaded in your determination, with God’s help, to stay together. —Life Application Bible Notes

6)    A Christian should not leave a Non-Christian Spouse.

1 Corinthians 7:12-16:  Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her.  And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him.  For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy.   (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.) Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?

You could very well influence your spouse to Christ.  My mom was not a Christian when her and dad got married, but through the faithful devotion to God that she saw in my dad, she got saved. Now please don’t take this as it’s ok to just get married to anyone expecting this same result. 

7)    Marriage is not for everyone.

1 Corinthians 7:7-9:  But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. But God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am.  But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35:  I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him.  But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife.  His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.  I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. 

8)    Marriage is for Companionship.

Proverbs 18:22:  The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.

Marriage was created for companionship.  Look back at Genesis 2:18–“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” 

9)    There is an Intimacy in Marriage that can’t be found anywhere else.

 Song Of Songs 4:7:  You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.

 Song Of Songs 4:9-10:  You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride. You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes, with a single jewel of your necklace. Your love delights me, my treasure, my bride. Your love is better than wine, your perfume more fragrant than spices.

When you find time this afternoon, I challenge you to read this chapter in God’s Word.  You will see just what I’m talking about when I say “Intimacy in Marriage.”

10)  A Strong Marriage is an Ideal Environment for Raising Godly Children.

Malachi 2:15:  Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.

Scripture tells us that “a triple-braided cord is not easily broken”(Ecclesiastes 4:12).  A strong marriage is not simply built upon emotions or dreams, but upon a solid relationship with Jesus Christ.  Such a couple recognizes that God is the one who has placed them together and that He is the one who will keep them together for the long haul.

Children who see their parents united by their love for God and one another have a distinct advantage over those who don’t – they have a chance to see the love of God in action.  They witness the power of Prayer when they witness prayers answered, they observe the value of unconditional love when they witness forgiveness, they understand the concept of trust when they witness wedding vows being honored, and they learn respect for God’s Word when they witness their parents obeying its principles.  In essence, they see firsthand what it means to be a Christian.  Our homers should be places where our children are encouraged to follow God and His Word because of how we live, not just what we say.  They need our example – as a couple committed to God and to each other – to give them hope and stability in this uncertain world.  As the Bible says, “Those who fear the Lord are secure; He will be a refuge for their children” (Proverbs 14:26).

The Crazy Thing Called Love

Hello Readers!!  I pray you are having a wonderful week.  I found some interesting facts about love, relationships, and marriage on the internet that I would like to share with you.

  • Historically, sweat has been an active ingredient in perfume and love potions!  Gross!!
  • Most Americans believe LOVE is the foundation of marriage.
  • Only 51% of American adults are married.
  • 60% of women say that religion is important in marriage.  Only 50% of men agree.
  • In America, the average marriage only last 7.5 years

In today’s society, marriage is quickly becoming something of the past.  The above statistics are alarming, but I can see why.  Most Americans believe that LOVE is the foundation of marriage.  I believe CHRIST should be the foundation of marriage.  Religion (a relationship with Christ) is not a priority is marriage anymore.

Read with me:  Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.

Why do you think the Bible mentions “a cord of three stands is not quickly torn apart”?  Because, we are suppose to intertwine God in all of our relationships if we want them to be strong and last.   Also, the scripture mentions: “But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.”  I believe this clues us in on how to treat our spouse/love.  We are not supposed to tear each other down, but lift each other up.  We should be encouraging to one another.  Once a word is spoken it CANNOT be taken back.  Please, watch your mouth.  Words hurt others deeply and cause scars that never fully heal.  This in return creates bitterness and resentment.  The Bible warns of this in Hebrews 12:15–“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”

I would like to share with you what my husband and I do to build each other up.  We have a “sunshine” notebook.  Several times a week, we write love notes to each other to remind each other why we love and appreciate one another.

I would like to challenge you to do three things for the rest of the week.

  1. Don’t say anything negative about your spouse/love.
  2. Say at least one thing you admire or appreciate about your spouse/love.  You can send them a random text message, email, or write a love letter.
  3. Greet each other with a smile.  You know, one smile can change someone’s day!  It makes the other person wonder why you are smiling.

In closing, let’s read Galatians 5:13-15:

“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”  If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.”

Thanks for reading!  Remember to be blessed and be a blessing to others!

~M.

Building a Better Marriage Part 2

Welcome Back!  Let’s begin with Part 2 of building a better marriage.

6. Forgive your spouse.

Matt 6:14-15:  “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

7. Consider what God wants in your situation not what you want.

1 Peter 3:9:  “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing”

8. Visualize what your life can be together.

Jer 29:11:  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’

9. Pray together regularly.

Eph 6:18:  “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.”

10.  Do NOT give up.

Gal 6:9: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

So don’t get tired of doing what is good. Don’t get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time. 

Also check out Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Eccl 4:9-12:

9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: 10 If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! 11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Love Never Fails!

~Pastor G

Building a Better Marriage Part 1

My wife talked about love yesterday. This week we are going to focus on marriages/relationships. We are going to talk about 10 steps to building a better marriage. Today, we are going to focus on the first five.

1. Make commitment (not your feelings) the foundation of your marriage.

Hebrews 13:4 reminds us “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”

You must give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage.

Did you know that:

  • 1 out of 3 marriages end in divorce.
  • 1 out of 50 marriages end in divorce if the couple had a church wedding.
  • 1 out of 105 marriages end in divorce if the couple attends church regularly.
  • 1 out of 1,155 marriages end in divorce if the couple attends church regularly and has family devotions.

2. Learn to draw a very large circle of love.

Ephesians 5:25 reminds us “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”

So, you, husbands, are commanded to love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her.  Think about that.  We have a great example to follow–Christ’s love for the church.

3. Humble yourself before your spouse.

Ephesians 5:21 reminds us, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

4. Continually say positive things to your spouse.

Eph 4:29 reminds us, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

5. Never go to bed angry with your spouse.
Eph 4:26-27 reminds us, “In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”

Come back tomorrow for part 2!

Show your spouse you love them today!

~Pastor G